This is an uncertain time for many people. Between concerns about our own health, loved ones’ health, and finances, there is much unknown and many of us are remain worried. Some of these worries may be helpful in that they motivate us to make proactive choices, practice good hygiene, and plan accordingly for the days ahead. Our children have even less control their choices, and may also be very worried as their everyday lives have radically changed in a very short period of time. Below are a few tips to consider with your own family and may be helpful to support your children and directly address their concerns.
- Be willing to speak with your children about the coronavirus. Be curious as to what they may have heard, what they may be wondering about, and if they have any specific worries. As a parent you don’t have to be an expert on the virus or have all of the answers. Your goal is to understand what they are thinking, validate that it is ok to feel afraid (or not afraid), and try to provide basic information and facts.
- Be reassuring! Remind children of the things that we are all doing as individuals and communities to keep each other safe. The community is coming together to help each other, and they can help too!
- Limit adult conversations and news consumption around your children. So much of what adults are reading, thinking about, and dealing with is COVID-19. Be mindful of how much you are discussing this topic or engaging in news watching with of your children. It is likely overwhelming and fear-generating to be inundated by all of the flow of information (for us adults too!).
- Be thoughtful about routines and trying to stick with them as much as possible. This can be very challenging given school closures, adult work and childcare situations, etc. Be kind to yourself- you are managing an unprecedented situation and what your peers or neighbors are doing with their children may not work for you and your family. Do the best you can to stick to somewhat of a schedule for sleeping, eating, etc. to help make life as predictable as possible in this uncertain time. When possible create some new fun routines- start a family friendly tv series together and watch a new episode each night, try and do a fun family project together, or call relatives and ask them to entertain your children while you take a walk. Be creative and be kind- to yourself and your children.
- Be aware that anxiety can manifest in a variety of ways. Often, children appear irritable or engage in challenging behaviors when feeling anxious. If you are noticing increased moodiness, irritability, or challenging behaviors this may be your child’s communication that they are feeling uncertain and unsettled. Be curious to any changes you may notice in yourself and your child. Seek help and support from family, friends, or a trusted professional as needed.