A Parents’ Guide to Kids & Teens Social Struggles

Watching your child or teenager be rejected or experience unkindness can be incredibly painful and anxiety-producing.  We want our children to fit in, to be liked and appreciated for who they are, and to feel a sense of belonging.  When social problems arise, we can react in different ways: feeling overwhelmed, feeling worried that our child will suffer or things will only get worse, or becoming critical of our teen or their friends. Our efforts to control the situation can backfire and lead our kids to feel unsupported.  When this happens, kids tend to stop sharing their bumps in life with us (for fear we can’t handle it).

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Tips for Talking to Your Child’s School About ADHD

September is here and so is the return to school for many kids. In addition to organizing the school supplies, after school schedules, and car pools, parents may also be busy starting to communicate with their child’s school.

If your child has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), it is important to talk to their new teacher and the school support team early on.

ADHD (or ADD) is a neurological disorder that affects the parts of the brain that plan, focus, and follow through on tasks. For these reasons in addition to several others, communicating your child’s diagnosis to their school is important.

Here are some tips for talking to your child’s school about ADHD.

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Back-to-School Tips for Anxious Kids (and Parents)

As the end of Summer quickly approaches, both kids and parents are anticipating the next transition of back-to-school. This can be a stressful time for both kids and their families.

If your child is anxious  leading up to the start of school, these tips can help.

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Digital Self-harm: What Parents Need to Know

Self-harm is defined as the infliction of pain onto oneself and can be seen as a symptom of several different mental health disorders, especially in adolescents. Self-harm behaviors typically include restrictive and binge eating, cutting, hitting, scratching, burning, and picking. There are a variety of reasons why people may self-harm and research suggests that these are the most common:

  • Expressing or coping with emotional distress
  • Trying to feel in control
  • A way of punishing oneself
  • Relieving emotional tension or pain

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Parenting a Highly Sensitive Child

Does your child often observe first in social situations and join later? Does she like her shoes tied a certain way or ask for tags to be cut out of clothing? Does she seem to identify how you are feeling very quickly or ask a lot of deep questions? Have others labeled your child as “emotional”? If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you may be parenting a highly sensitive child.

Dr. Elaine Aron is a Clinical Psychologist and researcher who first coined the term “highly sensitive child.” She reports that these children are born with a sensitive nervous system that is quick to react to both external and internal stimuli. According to her research, highly sensitive children make up 15 to 20% of kids. Things such as lights, sounds, smells, and even the moods and emotions of other people appear to affect them differently than other children.

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