The Playdate Playbook

Parents, we have made it to October. The time in the school year when many kids have transitioned into their classroom. Sometimes this transition is met with great success and other times it is burdened with multiple stressors. Fall is also the season of sports and after school activities. The lazier and less structured days of Summer are well behind us. Your children are hopefully making new friends or strengthening the bonds of past friendships. You may be hearing the chatter of making plans at the end of the school day and you are likely bracing yourself for the age old question; “Can (SO AND SO) come over to play, PLEEEEASEEEEE.”

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May is Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month

May marks Maternal Mental Health Awareness Month and a time to focus on the importance of mental health during pregnancy and shortly after birth. You are likely aware that 80% of new mothers report the “baby blues,” or intermittent periods of tearfulness, worry, irritability and fatigue. However, a lesser known statistic is that over 20% of new mothers meet criteria for a pregnancy or postpartum mood disorder.

The current COVID-19 pandemic is further complicating the experience of motherhood. Many mothers have had to grieve the loss of celebrations like baby showers that help with the transition and preparation of parenthood. Birth partners and supports have had limited access to prenatal appointments and, in some extreme cases, to the delivery rooms because of COVID-19 safety concerns. Further, new mothers have had to rely on fewer options for instrumental support after the arrival of their baby due to social distancing guidelines and overall fear of the virus. All of these losses have experts in maternal mental health concerned about the emotional well-being of the current cohort of expecting and new mothers.

With one in five mothers meeting criteria for a mental health disorder during or after pregnancy, this means that statistically most of us have had a friend, a sister, a mother, or co-worker who have suffered. However, the research reports that the barriers to talking about these issues (embarrassment, shame, guilt) get in the way. Additionally, many report that they were unaware of the different ways that maternal mental health problems can present.

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Using CBT in Couples Therapy

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is an evidence-based treatment for many psychological disorders. The fundamental principle of CBT is that the way you think in a situation will affect how you feel emotionally and impact your behavior. Among many other skills, CBT teaches people to identify unhelpful patterns of behavior and to develop new and more effective responses.

While many people have heard of the efficacy of CBT in individual therapy, fewer are aware that CBT can also be used in couples therapy to help partners identify and modify thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are negatively impacting their relationship.

Couples therapists are uniquely trained to utilize CBT within the context of the relationship. The following summarizes several ways in which CBT may used to guide couples treatment.

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Covid Vs. Cupid: Ways to reduce strain on your relationship during the pandemic

February is known as the month of love. This month also marks the almost 1-year anniversary of the Covid outbreak in the United States. Health concerns, financial loss, and parenting stress are just a few of the problems that American couples have been dealing with for many months. Most Americans report that this pandemic denotes the lowest point in history that they can remember.

The marriage data that have come out of China are alarming with an unprecedented surge in divorce filing after quarantine. Many couples are wondering how this past year will impact relationships several years to come.

Marriage therapists agree that the pandemic has taken its toll on relationships. But, we can also look to relationship research to find ways to strengthen the building blocks of communication and dialogue.

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